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School Anxiety

Today I’m working to assist children and teens with school-based anxiety. This problem seems to be far more prevalent than most us might think. For older kids, especially, there is lots of effort spent trying to look “okay” and “together,”

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Girls and Freedom

For nearly a decade I’ve been writing about the role of purpose in boys’ lives, but what about girls? Are they as lost as so many young men seem to be? What are the key differences  with respect to living

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Work Without Purpose is Nothing but a Chore

I’ve been reading Philip Zimbardo’s and Nikita Coulombe’s Man (Dis)connected. There is lots of great material describing the problems of boys and young men – and I highly recommend it to those invested in helping guys come of age in

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Boys Sad About Breaking-Up with Themselves

  It’s no secret that breaking-up is hard to do, and seemingly harder for adolescent guys than girls. (If I’m wrong about this, feel free to argue.) Why is the break-up so much more dramatic and depressing for boys?Some might

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Separation Anxiety

With school having begun recently, I’ve been seeing a lot of separation anxiety. Most of the time this problem affects younger children, and manifests itself as school refusal. In a typical case, the child is very upset about leaving parents

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New Videos on Focus and Listening

I have uploaded two new videos to my Video Archive. The first video discusses Improving Focus and  the “ecology of attention,” highlighting how attention is much more social than most of us realize. The second video addresses Listening without Looking

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More Level Playing Field

Really happy to see this article in the New York Times about the United States’ most selective universities – including all the Ivy’s – working together to provide guidance to 9th and 10th grade students about what it takes to

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How to Talk to Boys

Okay, so the first thing to know about getting a great conversation going is that communication has two parts: form and content. Most everybody pays mega attention to the content, while neglecting form. The content is what you are talking

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Important Meditation on Space

Readers of this blog know that they can expect perspectives of youth not found elsewhere. I’m really hoping to connect with kindred spirits about topics that can change the lives of kids for the better. Recently, I’ve discovered a book

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College Admissions Drama 101

If I were a high school junior or senior, I’d throw in the towel. How many opposing perspectives do we expect kids to comprehend when it comes to college admissions? Many, if not most teens, are subject to years of

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