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Girls and Freedom

For nearly a decade I’ve been writing about the role of purpose in boys’ lives, but what about girls? Are they as lost as so many young men seem to be? What are the key differences  with respect to living

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One Child at a Time

In my career I’ve worked on two fronts: one has to do with advocating for broader, social change, and the other has to do with working to help craft the selfhood of young people, one at a time. These days

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New Videos on Focus and Listening

I have uploaded two new videos to my Video Archive. The first video discusses Improving Focus and  the “ecology of attention,” highlighting how attention is much more social than most of us realize. The second video addresses Listening without Looking

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Important Meditation on Space

Readers of this blog know that they can expect perspectives of youth not found elsewhere. I’m really hoping to connect with kindred spirits about topics that can change the lives of kids for the better. Recently, I’ve discovered a book

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How to Reduce Drama, Improve Grades

There is only so much emotion to go around during the course of the school day. If all of it gets invested in grades, relatively less is available for the important stuff, like discussion, debate and sustained attention. So, how

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Searching for Authenticity

For two decades I’ve been wrestling with the challenges of youth, trying to address the most pressing issues in constructive and novel ways. The landscape of child and adolescent psychology is not flat. Specifically, not all issues or challenges are

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Best School Video Ever!

Must see video from one of my favorite schools! Isn’t this how we want all students to feel about school…I think so!  

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Play is the Work of Children

Play occupies life before work does, and is in ways a primer for work. As cleverly observed by philosopher Alain de Botton, children gravitate toward characters who are “shopkeepers, builders, cooks or farmers – people whose labor can easily be

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“Monstrous Children”

Modern children face an unfortunate fact. For all the love and attention we lavish on them, hardly a soul takes them seriously. Further, despite abundant indulgence and protection provided to middle-class children, in particular, few are given anything significant to

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Do Manners Make Kids Dull?

      I came across this thoughtful piece on manners during childhood in The Guardian. Nice analysis of how a person’s socioeconomic class can make manners feel “suffocating.” Do others feel the same? Not sure. I know that I was raised

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