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Work Without Purpose is Nothing but a Chore

I’ve been reading Philip Zimbardo’s and Nikita Coulombe’s Man (Dis)connected. There is lots of great material describing the problems of boys and young men – and I highly recommend it to those invested in helping guys come of age in

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One Child at a Time

In my career I’ve worked on two fronts: one has to do with advocating for broader, social change, and the other has to do with working to help craft the selfhood of young people, one at a time. These days

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Boys Sad About Breaking-Up with Themselves

  It’s no secret that breaking-up is hard to do, and seemingly harder for adolescent guys than girls. (If I’m wrong about this, feel free to argue.) Why is the break-up so much more dramatic and depressing for boys?Some might

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If Games are so Interesting, Why are Players so Dull?

Games are intensely interesting to people, especially boys, and young to middle-aged women who are the primary players of phone games. It seems absurd to argue this point as the evidence speaks for itself. Why would so many play if

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New Videos on Focus and Listening

I have uploaded two new videos to my Video Archive. The first video discusses Improving Focus and  the “ecology of attention,” highlighting how attention is much more social than most of us realize. The second video addresses Listening without Looking

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How to Talk to Boys

Okay, so the first thing to know about getting a great conversation going is that communication has two parts: form and content. Most everybody pays mega attention to the content, while neglecting form. The content is what you are talking

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Important Meditation on Space

Readers of this blog know that they can expect perspectives of youth not found elsewhere. I’m really hoping to connect with kindred spirits about topics that can change the lives of kids for the better. Recently, I’ve discovered a book

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How to Reduce Drama, Improve Grades

There is only so much emotion to go around during the course of the school day. If all of it gets invested in grades, relatively less is available for the important stuff, like discussion, debate and sustained attention. So, how

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Failure to Launch

Speaking of boys and young men, is there any social epidemic which frustrates families more than a failure to launch? And with good reason. How frustrating to raise and educate a child who then lacks the interest and momentum to

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Searching for Authenticity

For two decades I’ve been wrestling with the challenges of youth, trying to address the most pressing issues in constructive and novel ways. The landscape of child and adolescent psychology is not flat. Specifically, not all issues or challenges are

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